Green Flags On A First Date

 With so much information around about how to spot red flags early on in a relationship, it's important we are also able to look out for green flags in a relationship. In particular, spotting green flags early on in a first date. These ten green flags are the little signs that whisper, “Hey, this could be something special!” So, grab your metaphorical binoculars, because we’re spotting green flags left and right.

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1. Genuine Interest: Imagine sitting across from your date, and their eyes light up when you talk about your passion for collecting vintage spoons (yes, that’s a thing). That’s a green flag! It means they’re genuinely interested in getting to know you, quirks and all. They ask questions, listen intently, and don’t just wait for their turn to speak.

2. Shared Laughter: Laughter is the secret handshake of the heart. When you both giggle over the absurdity of life or share an inside joke, it’s like planting a little green flag in the soil of connection. Bonus points if they have a snorty laugh – that’s practically a marriage proposal right there.

3. Respectful Boundaries: Ah, boundaries – the unsung heroes of healthy relationships. When your date respects your personal space, emotional limits, and dietary preferences (because, hey, some people really hate cilantro), it’s a green flag parade. They don’t push, invade, or make you uncomfortable. Gold star!

4. Authenticity: Authenticity is the unicorn of dating. When your date shows up as their true self – quirks, insecurities, and all – it’s like waving a giant green flag. No masks, no pretense. Just two humans navigating the awkward dance of vulnerability.

5. Shared Interests: “You love hiking? I love hiking! Let’s hike together!” That’s the sound of green flags fluttering in the breeze. Shared interests create a bridge between you. Whether it’s a love for indie films, salsa dancing, or competitive knitting, finding common ground is like discovering a hidden treasure chest.

6. Kindness: Kindness is the ultimate aphrodisiac. When your date treats the waiter with respect, holds the door open, and doesn’t kick puppies (because, let’s be real, that’s a red flag), it’s like a field of blooming green flags. Kindness is contagious, and it makes the world a better place – and your date, too.
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    7. Curiosity About Your Life: “Tell me more!” Your date leans in, eyes wide, genuinely curious about your childhood, dreams, and that embarrassing incident involving a kazoo at age 10. That’s a green flag waving proudly. They want to unravel the layers of your story, like a patient detective solving a delightful mystery.

    8. Comfortable Silence: Picture this: You’re sipping coffee, and there’s a comfortable silence – not awkward, just serene. That’s a green flag picnic. It means you’re both at ease, and words aren’t necessary. You can enjoy the moment without feeling pressured to fill the void.

    9. Encouragement: “You want to start a llama farm? Go for it!” When your date cheers you on, celebrates your quirkiest dreams, and believes in your potential, it’s like a green flag fireworks display. They’re not threatened by your ambitions; they’re your personal cheerleader.

    10. Eye Contact: The eyes have it! When your date locks eyes with you, it’s like they’re saying, “I see you, and I like what I see.” That’s a green flag semaphore. Eye contact shows presence, connection, and a hint of “Maybe we’re onto something here.”

    Heading out on a first date? Being on the look out for red flags maybe your priority but be sure to also be on the lookout for these green flags. They’re the little sparks that ignite something beautiful. And who knows? Maybe one day, you’ll look back and say, “Our first date was a field of waving green flags.” 🌿💚


    This article was compiled by our resident expert and scientist, Ami Reid, CEO of The Quiet Achiever. The Quiet Achiever is New Zealand's women owned and operated sexual wellness store that sells only 100% body-safe toys and tools to women and couples. You can shop their products or learn more here or by following the link below:

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