Does Lack of Sex Cause Lack of Sleep?

Sex and sleep are two fundamental aspects of human life, intricately woven into our well-being. While they may seem unrelated at first glance, recent research has unveiled a fascinating connection between these essential components. Let’s delve into the science behind how sex and sleep influence each other.

Can sex help with sleep issues?

The short answer is yes, studies show there is a correlation between sex and sleep, here's 4 ways sex (or lack of!) can either help or hinder your chances of getting a good night's rest:

The Sleep-Sex Connection

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1. The Role of Sleep in Sexual Health

Quality sleep is crucial for overall health, and adults typically need at least seven hours of restful sleep each night. Sleep cycles involve various stages, and uninterrupted sleep allows these stages to unfold properly. Interestingly, gender and sex play a role in how sleep functions:

  • Sleep Duration: Men and women may experience sleep differently. Some studies suggest that women tend to sleep more soundly and have better sleep quality than men. However, individual variations exist.

  • Hormonal Influence: Hormones significantly impact sleep. For instance, estrogen affects sleep patterns in women, especially during the menstrual cycle and menopause. Adequate sleep helps regulate hormone levels, promoting overall well-being.

2. The Impact of Sex on Sleep

Now, let’s explore how sexual activity influences sleep:

  • Endorphin Release: After sexual activity, the body releases endorphins—natural feel-good chemicals. These endorphins induce relaxation, ease anxiety, and promote better sleep quality.

  • Stress Reduction: Sex reduces cortisol levels—the stress hormone. Engaging in intimate moments with a partner can alleviate stress and create a conducive environment for restful sleep.

  • Physical Benefits: The physical exertion during sex can be akin to light exercise. This can lead to a sense of fatigue, making it easier to fall asleep afterward.

3. Sexual Dysfunction and Sleep

Disruptions in sexual function can impact sleep. Conditions like loss of interest in sex, arousal difficulties, or painful intercourse can affect overall well-being. Conversely, poor sleep can lead to sexual dysfunction due to fatigue, stress, and hormonal imbalances.

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4. Communication and Prioritization

To enhance both sleep and sexual health:

  • Prioritize Sleep: Make sleep a priority. Create a conducive sleep environment, maintain a consistent sleep schedule, and address any sleep issues quickly.

  • Open Communication: Discuss sexual needs and desires with your partner. A healthy sexual relationship fosters emotional intimacy and positively impacts sleep.


Recognizing the intricate dance between sex and sleep allows us to prioritize both aspects for overall wellness. So, tonight, consider cuddling up for a good night’s sleep—it might just lead to more than dreams! 🌙💤🔥

 To read more about the relationship between sex and sleep The Sleep Foundation have a great article here.


This article was compiled by our resident expert and scientist, Ami Reid, CEO of The Quiet Achiever. The Quiet Achiever is New Zealand's only women owned and operated sexual wellness store that sells only 100% body-safe toys and tools to women and couples. You can shop their products or learn more here or by following the link below:

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