The Myth of Virginity and Its History: An Enlightened Perspective

Virginity is a concept rooted in myths and cultural beliefs that have evolved over the centuries. Understanding its history and the myths surrounding it can help dispel misconceptions and promote a healthier, more inclusive view of sexuality. This article explores the origins, historical significance, and evolving perceptions of virginity. 
 
Historical Origins of Virginity
 
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Ancient Civilisations 
The concept of virginity dates back to ancient civilisations, where it was often associated with purity and honour. In many societies, women's virginity was considered valuable and indicative of their moral integrity. For example, in Ancient Greece and Rome, virgin goddesses like Athena and Vesta symbolised purity and were highly revered. 
 
Religious Influence 
Religious doctrines have significantly shaped the concept of virginity. In many religious texts, virginity is linked to spiritual purity and devotion. For example, in Christianity, the Virgin Mary is celebrated for her immaculate conception, symbolising ultimate moral and spiritual purity. Similarly, in other religions, vows of chastity and celibacy are esteemed and often seen as pathways to spiritual enlightenment. 
 
The Myth of the Hymen
 
Misconceptions About the Hymen 
One of the most persistent myths about virginity involves the hymen, a thin membrane at the vaginal opening. Many believe that an intact hymen signifies virginity, while its rupture indicates sexual activity.

The hymen is a stretchy collar of tissue just inside the entrance to the vagina. The hormone oestrogen changes the appearance of your hymen over a person's lifetime. After puberty, the hymen becomes more stretchy – a bit like a hair scrunchy. Just like our noses are all slightly different, hymens are all slightly different too.

 Importantly, the hymen has nothing to do with virginity:

  • The hymen is not like a piece of Glad Wrap at the entrance of your vagina (thankfully).
  • You can't tell if someone is a virgin or not by looking at their hymen.
  • You can't break or damage your hymen doing activities like gymnastics or riding a horse.
  • It isn't common for tampon use to affect your hymen.
  • There have been many myths about the hymen around for thousands of years. Even medical people believed them. But we now know it was all wrong.
 
Cultural Practices 
This myth has led to numerous cultural practices aimed at verifying a woman's virginity. In some cultures, women undergo "virginity testing," a practice condemned by health experts and human rights organisations for its invasiveness and lack of scientific basis. These practices can cause significant psychological and physical harm. 
 
Virginity and Morality
 
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Moral Judgments 
Historically, virginity has been used to impose moral judgments, particularly on women. A woman’s value was often tied to her virginity, affecting her marriage prospects and social standing. Men, on the other hand, were rarely subjected to the same scrutiny, reflecting a double standard in many societies. 
 
Control and Patriarchy 
The emphasis on female virginity has often been a tool of patriarchal control. By regulating women's sexuality, societies sought to control family lineage, inheritance rights, and social order. Women who did not conform to these standards faced ostracism, punishment, or worse. 
 
Evolving Perceptions of Virginity
 
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Modern Attitudes 
In recent decades, attitudes towards virginity have evolved significantly. The modern perspective considers virginity a personal and subjective concept rather than a rigidly defined status. People now recognise that sexual experiences are diverse, and virginity cannot be universally quantified. 
 
Focus on Sexual Health 
The shift towards a focus on overall sexual health, consent, and mutual respect represents a positive change. Comprehensive sex education that includes discussions about virginity, consent, and healthy relationships helps dismantle myths and fosters a more informed and respectful view of sexuality. 
 
Dispelling the Myth

 
The myth of virginity is deeply embedded in cultural, historical, and religious contexts. However, understanding its origins and the misconceptions surrounding it can help promote a healthier and more inclusive perspective. By moving away from judgmental and patriarchal views of virginity, society can embrace a more respectful and nuanced understanding of human sexuality. 

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Recognising the diversity of sexual experiences and focusing on holistic sexual health, consent, and mutual respect paves the way for a more empathetic and informed society. Dispelling the myth of virginity empowers individuals to define their own sexual journeys with confidence and without undue societal pressure. 

 

This article was compiled by our resident expert and scientist, Ami Reid, CEO of The Quiet Achiever. The Quiet Achiever is New Zealand's only women owned and operated sexual wellness store that sells only 100% body-safe toys and tools to women and couples. You can shop their products or learn more here or by following the link below:

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